After talking about this in Sunday School twice, I just knew it was something important to share. I think it’s something we all struggle with, if we are honest with ourselves……..
How many times do we tell our children “Just a Minute,” but then never get to it?
“Read me a book, Mommy!” Just a minute.
“Can you hold me?” Let me just transfer this load of laundry first. (and make lunch and take a phone call and never get to it…..)
What if our “Just A Minute” words (or our excuses) were replaced with the words:
“I don’t love you enough to stop what I am doing right now.”
“You are not more important than my _______.”
Fill in the blank: chores, facebook, cell phone, tv show.
I know that is harsh and not at all the case, but have you ever seen those sagging shoulders and sad little faces as they turn and walk away? Don’t you think that despite what we are saying, that this may be what they are HEARING?!
We can “just a minute” those kids right out the door, grown and gone before we know what happened.
Do I always stop the second a child asks? No. Do I wish I could ? Yes!!!!!
But, here is what I CAN do:
1) Commit at least a half hour an hour a day to just sitting with them, holding them on my lap and reading them a book before nap. Or rolling a ball back and forth between our legs. Or laying on the floor together and coloring a picture. For us, morning time is best, or sometimes, between after school chores and supper prep. Do I have a million things I COULD be doing during that time?! Of course.
Playing is hard for me, I am goal oriented and have a list of a million and one things I want to accomplish before the day is done. But I will NOT go to bed feeling guilty anymore for lack of play time with my kids. I am going to do better. I want my kids to know they are loved, not just by my words, but by my actions as well!
2) Stay off the computer when the kids are awake!!!!
This used to be my rule, but as I have started this blog, answering emails, writing new posts, and editing photos have become very time-consuming, I want to do better at balancing it all!
My goal is to do as follows:
~Check morning email during TV time only. As soon as they are done, I am done.
I have to come to my office to get on the computer, so it takes effort to come in here and check. If you have email/facebook on your cell phone, set it down in another room when you are with your family, so that they have your FULL attention. Mom’s FULL attention for 30 minutes is better than her half-hearted attention with wandering eyes looking at her cell phone, all day long.
~ Use nap time wisely, so that I can have time left in the evening to be with Destiny when she gets home from school, and time with Dale after the kids go to bed.
Laundry, photo projects, editing, supper prep, whatever! The more I can get done during nap time, the better!! Those are ‘free hours’ when no one needs me.
~Keep my priorities in order and ask myself:
“Does this activity promote the following?” God first. Family second. THEN all the other things.
~In the evening, we try very hard to start bedtime EARLIER than we think we need to, so that we have time to read a Bible story, sing a few songs and pray together to close the day. The kids LOVE that time and cry when we have to skip it due to a late night.
After that, I blog and email and Dale watches a documentary or something on TV. We have to be careful to shut those both down at a good time, so we still can have our devotions, prayer and talk time before we fall asleep. This has been hard for us, since 10 pm sure comes quickly!
Satan loves for us to be “too busy” to pray with each other, seek God together and converse and be friends with our spouse. In fact, I think busyness is one of his sneakiest weapons!
Don’t let social media and busyness rob you of the precious moments you have with your family.
Your kids only spend so many years seeking YOUR attention, then you spend the rest of your life, trying to get theirs.
Just For This Morning…..