On This Black Friday…

  Tomorrow is the day we celebrate things we are thankful for, how blessed we are to have food in our cabinets, clothes on our backs, warm beds to snuggle into at the end of the day, clean fresh water at the push of a button or twist of a handle.

How sad that the day after we are thankful, we indulge in a rat race of shoving, hitting, pushing and even biting to grab more “stuff”.  How sad that employees leave family functions early, to drive to work so you can shop.  How sad that some stores are even thinking about opening on Thanksgiving Day, as yet another day to take your money!

Black Friday may mean profit for the store, bringing them “back in the black” after a tough year,  but Black Friday is DARK to me…..

A day celebrating stuff, things, materialism, greedy gimmies and more, more, MORE.

I hate the Greedy Gimmies, and I know this time of year, commercials are specifically designed to entice children to want it, need it, gotta have it! I sent out an email this year to our family saying, NO MORE TOYS.  We have enough!  They may or may not listen, but I no longer can sit in good conscience and let the STUFF continue to pile up around here.  There has to be a better way to celebrate!

Don’t get me wrong, I am thankful 3 gifts for each child in this home, will lie under the tree next month; some from garage sales, others great bargains along the way, but I am MORE thankful, that each child will have a chance to adopt a child close to their age through our church Shoe Box project again this year.  That once again we have opportunity to teach them to be blessed by GIVING, not always receiving.

I am not saying you are wrong for planning to go at 2 am Friday morning to shop your Christmas list!  Not at ALL, I am a couponer, I LOVE a good deal just like you do.  I am simply asking you to be cautious.

I am asking you to think twice before you snatch that electronic, or Barbie Dream House, or Furby, or the last item off the shelf as you see someone else approaching it.

I am asking you to DEFINE NECESSITY.

I am asking you to be His hands and feet, and give to others less fortunate than yourself.

To limit what you spend on yourselves this year.

Do NOT go in the RED to help stores get into the black.

I hear of parents that take out $2000 loans every year for Christmas.  


What could your child possibly need worth going into debt for?

Why do families insist on buying for Aunt Jane and Uncle Bobby and all 15 cousins?
Can’t you draw names and just give something smaller, so you can all help someone other than yourselves?

  I am asking you to DEFINE NECESSITY.

To use that money to help a local charity, to adopt a family in need, to teach your children selflessness rather than selfishness this Holiday season.  To guide your children to look outside themselves and the greedy little world they are living in.

I am asking you to look into Compassion International, or to get a catalog from Samartians Purse for gift ideas that keep on giving.

Your $25 can help towards giving a milk cow to a starving family of 9.  ONE LESS GIFT for Uncle Frank and Aunt Sue and Cousin Betty, can give a village of 1000, clean drinking water for a lifetime.

We are blind, fat and greedy as a nation.  OPEN YOUR EYES to the people hurting around you…..

DEFINE NECESSITY this Black Friday and upcoming Christmas season.

It’s a big world out there, and we are to be HIS hands and feet.

Matthew 25:40  ‘I tell you the truth, whatever you did for one of the least of these….you did for me.’



18 thoughts on “On This Black Friday…

  1. My dear sweet daughter, thank you for eloquently sharing a passion that we have lived out for many years! It is so freeing to not have a list a mile long of all the gifts I MUST buy for family and friends. It is so much more rewarding and blessed to give to those who have little to nothing! Thank you for sharing your heart and touching many others, as well as warming mine. You have picked up the baton and are caring the torch, of passing the love of Christ you have for others, to your children!! I love you and your dear family immensely!!

  2. Thank you for another heartfelt and fiercely truthful post! It brought tears to my eyes as I think of how greedy our nation has become. I love your focus and that you and your little ones truly appreciate the simple things in life. May you be richly blessed as we ponder all we have to be thankful for.I AM THANKFUL FOR EACH OF THE PRECIOUS FERGUSON FAMILY:-*

  3. Amen!!! And thank you my dear sweet friend for sharing your passionate heart on this subject!!! I support you 100%!!! I remember a couple years ago you posted the “define necessity” picture…it absolutely broke my heart. How can we as a nation be SO selfish and careless?!? That picture was printed (several times in fact) and posted all around our house. It stays there year round to remind us to place Jesus and others first…I am blessed to know you and love you dearly. Thank you.

  4. Our church is participating for the second year in a row with the Advent Conspiracy (http://www.adventconspiracy.org). The focus is to spend less and give more. Simplify, to be generous with your time (instead of just being busy) and to give to those who are truly in need. We have the opportunity to donate to the church’s benevolent fund, purchase gifts like goats and wells through Gospel for Asia, or adopt a family in need and bring them a hamper for Christmas. Last year my bible study group and office both sponsored single mom’s and it was truly a blessing to US to be able to bless them. Thank you for reminding all of us what this season is truly about.

  5. Girl, I LOVE this post. I loved it last year and we did Samaritans purse because of YOU and these wonderful posts. THANK YOU. THANK YOU. Way to put things in PERSPECTIVE. we NEED reminders, do NOT stop doing these kind of posts. Love you and bless you.

  6. I completely agree!! I have never shopped on black Friday and don’t plan to. I like a deal as much as the next person, but I just don’t think it is worth the long lines and crowds, let alone the time away from my family. I have 2 girls (4 and 2.5) and one 10 month old boy. The girls are getting a play kitchen, and that’s it! I have been talking with the girls about giving to others and we are going to pick out some of our own toys that are still in good condition to give to Goodwill. I don’t want Christmas to become all about what they are going to get. I want to teach them generosity and charity. Christmas is so much more than presents!

  7. Thanks so much for putting my thoughts into words!! I heartily agree with you. There are so many ways to show the true meaning of Christmas by reaching out to those in need, both close to home and far away. Let’s show the world who Jesus really is!!

  8. What a great post! my children are still very small, but this is something that my husband and I are trying to teach out kids! “it is better to give than to recieve” blessing to your family!

  9. Thank you for reminding all of us what this season is truly about Christmas is so much more than presents!
    I remember one time many many years ago when my children were little they spent time with Grandma so hubby and I could shop black Friday as we had little money and wanted the best deal we could get for all Gifts and that one time showed us that this was not for us it was awful ..the crowds the shoving the very rude people fighting over the “last” gift of that kind etc ….We never did it again to this day and never will.
    We now do a lot of home made gifts most made from items we have already and very little money spent…Baked treats as well!
    We choose to help the needy children from our Church and the names you see hanging on the Christmas trees at different stores and the local food banks who these days seem to have a hard time staying stocked.
    Drop some extra coins in “The Red Buckets” for the Bell ringers!
    And don’t forget the needy pets:)
    These are the blessings we are Thankful for.

  10. You are absolutely right. However I have to say that the spending at Christmas is usually crucial to our nations economy. Unfortunately if we do not shop the local stores, a lot of jobs might be lost and that is so important to the livelihood of so many people. And Our very own country, the USA, are not all fat and greedy. There is plenty of people who need our help right here without sending all of our charity away to another country. While there might be entire villages that need water, there are little children right down the street living without running water, heat in their homes or food in their refrigerators. I am all about giving back in our very own community. Spend your money to help the local community by shopping local and give what you buy to a family who has so much less than you have. That is what I plan to do to teach my family about giving back.

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