Word of the Year 2014: Balance

   I had not ever had a “Word of the Year” before, when the Lord spoke to me RESTORATION in 2013, then followed it up with a million and one “God Moments”. 

Click on the word Restoration above, when I re read it, it gave me tears and chills. 

  Our Father in Heaven is so incredible to speak to us in such tangible ways.  I was asking Him in to Restore what the locusts had eaten at my house and in my marriage in 2012.  I was asking Him to restore my joy, to heal my heart.

He did.

He still is.

I feel my Word of the Year for 2014 is BALANCE.  As the Lord has blessed our home in various areas, we have gotten busy.

And you know what I think about busy:

So my commitment to 2014 is to filter everything through Christ Jesus and His word, and His desire to be Number ONE in my life.  To stop and PRAY about each commitment before it goes on the calendar.

You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in you. (Isaiah 26:3)

My second commitment is to put my husband and his needs next, followed by my precious children.  This means that I will not always be staying up late at night to create a blog post for you all.  This is tough for me to say and do, because I am a pleaser and by nature want to do my best, both feet in.  I have worked hard to have blogs set into January, ready to go, because I worked ahead knowing the Holidays were going to be crazy.

But here is the deal….

No one made me blog 5 days a week for the past 3 1/2 years, but I have done it: driven by my need to give it my all.

I am plain burned out, and I think I need to admit that to you and to me.   So, sometimes if you come and there is no post, just know I am choosing to snuggle up with Dale on the couch, make a t-shirt scarf, play a game with the kids, or just read a book for fun.  

  I also am going to have to find BALANCE in my Photography business as it grows.  I want to limit myself to 2 appts. a week, no appointments wedding weekends, and once again put into place, a waiting list for any appointments beyond my set limit. 

  The pleaser in me wants to fit everyone in anytime they ask, but in putting my life back into its proper order, it will just not be possible. I know God will bless this commitment, even if it means some people chose another photographer.  I am ready to be ok with that.  I release it.

  I also want to be careful not to over do next October-November.  We call this the Christmas Card RUSH.  I was working all morning, all nap time, AND staying up until 2 in the morning trying to get sessions done because there were simply not enough daylight hours.

Paxton got to the point where when I was heading outside he would ask, “You leaving a long time mommy?  You got lots of photo shessions today, Mommy or just one?”

The others would ask, “Mommy, can I watch you edit so I can be with you?”


Time, no matter how much I beg, does NOT multiply.

For years I kept asking God to multiply my “Pie”, my time allotted each and every day.

A slice to hubby, a slice to kids, a slice to cooking, a slice to Facebook, a slice to blog, a slice to edit, a slice to a hurting friend, a slice to quiet time….wait, there are only crumbs left well before my list is done!

My family is my world, and I want to show them that by giving them my biggest, best piece of pie, not the crumbs.  They are starving for me!

I want to seek them out while they are still seeking me back.  Avery goes to school next year, these moments of me being a stay at home mom are passing quickly through the hour-glass, and I can’t help but feel jealous of the time I give other places.


  So, can you commit with me to find BALANCE in 2014?

Anytime you add something, it means another area must give up!
Seems simple enough, but it was news to me!!!!!

finding balance

  Can we commit to limit busyness, so we can have family time around the table each evening, curl up with our spouse on the couch after a long day, read a book, or knit a scarf?

 Commit to communing with God, no longer rushing from thing to thing, wondering where the time goes?

I want to find Balance in 2014.

My battle is not against the people who ask me for my time, but against the devil himself….

1 Peter 5:8 (AMP), it says:

“Be well-balanced (temperate, sober of mind), be vigilant and cautious at all times; for that enemy of yours, the devil, roams around like a lion roaring (in fierce hunger), seeking someone to seize upon and devour.”

“Do you ever feel your life is out of control—out of balance? As a child of God, we must take time from our busyness to set our priorities in order. Life is a gift and should be lived well.
We all have emergencies where we burn the candle at both ends, but this should not be the norm or soon there will be no candle left to burn.
That candle is the spirit within us that inspires us and propels us into forward motion.

“For thou wilt light my candle: the Lord my God will enlighten my darkness”(Psalm 18:28).

The darkness refers to our confusion, hesitation, frustration, or anything that would put out the light within us, as life has been known to do. Finding balance in life applies to all age groups, as the principles remain the same. It is essential to keep the most important things on the top of the list and to allow proper time for these things so one does not burn out, become frazzled or haggard.”


More about Christian women finding balance here: http://christianity.about.com/od/womensresources/a/KW-Work-life-Balance.htm

May God bless you with a fresh start and a fresh perspective on your “Pie” of time each day in 2014….

Let’s keep each other accountable!

Hugs, T


17 thoughts on “Word of the Year 2014: Balance

  1. Hi there, thanks for the post! I appreciate that you self-identify as a “people-pleaser”; I am one as well. I do want to encourage you to, perhaps, de-spiritualize your approach to your busyness problem. What I mean is, instead of pointing to our Enemy as the source of your problems, continue to point to your own “flesh” and your need to please people. Learning to say “No” for people like you and I is extremely important; it stops us from over-extending ourselves. I heard someone say one that when she’s asked to commit to something, like bringing cookies to a PTA meeting, she closes her eyes, counts to five, and centers herself. Then, if she feels over-extended, those five seconds of self-collection allow her to say “No” without feeling guilt or shame. That’s what I want for you as part of your search for Balance this year: Saying No without shame. 🙂

  2. Wow Tonya! You just spoke my heart for 2014!!!! I know that the LORD has been telling me that I need to balance my life out. Last year was a bit of a bumpy road for us. But I am determined to not follow that same path again!!!! My priorities were WAY out of whack last year and I am determined to again get things in order again. Thank you for confirming that I need to have GOD first hubby and the kids second and everything comes after all that!
    Love and hugs to you friend! Looking forward to a new me in 2014!!!!

    • I saved up some photo money to buy a whole kit of them, and ended up saving a lot of money in the long run. I am SO excited to share! Just want to learn more first… 🙂 Good, I am so glad to hear that Balance spoke to your heart as well. As the CEO of our homes, and the one who fills the calendar, I feel like a lot of this comes from us down!

      • Yes, I wrote you a thank you email! I am sorry you didn’t get it. 😦
        It arrived safe and sound. We are all in love with your vanilla. Joy is excited too, she loves to bake!
        And thank you for the wonderful treats. The soap dispenser is in the kids bathroom, and its perfect because we are re-doing it in turquoise and red and other fun colors. I couldn’t have picked a better soap jar myself! 🙂 And I already had to get the homemade ointment out for Ty’s big owie this weekend. You are amazing at that stuff!

      • Oh, I am sad that I did not get your email! 😦 I wonder why I didn’t!?!?!
        Let me think about ordering. But, I will for sure let you know and go thru you for it!!!:) Thanks!!:)
        love and hugs!

  3. Thank you, my friend, for speaking honest words of truth that will be a blessing for all of us work on in the new year. I appreciate your expressive words and the scripture you share to show us His plan for our precious time in this life. How many of us forget that our family time is important when we get caught up in the day to day that takes us away from what is a true gift. Blessings to you and yours in 2014!

  4. I’m in! I haven’t really had one word stick out to me this year, but am changing habits and spending more time in His word…thus spending less time being unproductive on social media. We are also implementing a more firm detox from technology in our house! I look forward to balance, presence, intention, growth, and learning this year!

    God Bless!

  5. Tonya,
    Thank you for taking the time to tell us of your jouney. You have shared the most important things with us and we are grateful for the look into your life so that we can see how “normal” we ar. Take your family time. It is what God sent you here on earth for. I have just started learning about essential oils too. I have a bonus check coming in this Saturday that I will be using to purchase my starter kit of Young Living oils. Let’s learn together!

  6. Yikes. Well that spoke for me. Marius is always saying things like “it never ends” and “no rest for the wicked” because we have a super busy life. No more. I think we need to come up with a game plan to not overbook!

  7. I just pinned this post. I love, love love this!!! I am just about ready to give up my photography business because I can’t do it all. I have three weddings scheduled this year and had two clients call to schedule appointments and I’m thinking of turning them down. I started homeschooling my boys this year and between that, the blog (including our GROW in His Word ministry) and keeping up with our family/house I felt like I couldn’t breathe most of 2013. I feel like I need to take a step back from some things. I’m stepping back from my photography business (only doing the sessions/weddings I already have booked). My word this year is Discipline. I want to be more disciplined in everything I do from the foods I eat to the words I speak and everything in between. I feel like part of this includes time management and being disciplined with how and where I spend my time. 🙂 Thank you for this post!! ❤

  8. Thanks for sharing this. My word for 2014 is childlikeness. I recently heard one of those rock-you-to-the-core messages about rest based on Hebrews 3 & 4. I went up to the pastor afterwards and asked for wisdom about what rest looks like with little kids. He said rest looks like enjoying your kids. Instead of like when you are in a crowded room and you keep looking around the person right in front of you. Rest for you is looking right at your children. He said “they (your children) are not what keep you from rest. It is ALL the other stuff that keep you from rest.” I started to weep when he said the last line because I thought of all the other things that have taken me away from my kids and kept me from living out of the place of God’s rest. I pray that His message to me will also encourage you Tonya. I am looking forward to being a child again and enjoying life with my precious children this year!

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