Lake Weekend Away

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We had the most AMAZING weekend away!  Yup, even when we are “home” we like to travel. Haha, guess it really does become a normal part of life, because we didn’t even think twice about it until a few of you teased us about leaving again so soon.  🙂

I am sharing all our pictures today, from Mother’s Day weekend, on the RV Oilers blog:  Lake Weekend Away

See you over there! Hope you had a lovely Mother’s day celebrating your Momma and stand in Momma’s in life!

Hugs, T

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Celtic Woman

  My mom and Grandma are next door neighbors.  Actually, better than that, they are on both sides of a duplex.  I adore how much they do together, and praise God for His infinite wisdom in moving them side by side.

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  Grandma always has to call mom when Celtic Woman comes on PBS.  She also calls me and makes me tell the girls so they can turn it on.  Haha, she is so funny!  They are so talented and the girls love their long flowing gowns. 

The video link won’t work above, but you can listen later.  They played Amazing Grace with bag pipes at the concert, oh my word! AMAZING.

   When I got an email from Groupon saying they were coming to a town near us for one day only, I knew we had to go.  Even better, the VERY expensive tickets, were reduced to $19.99!  I called mom and we planned a special SURPRSIE Mothers Day/Girls Night Out for Grandma and the little girls.

  They had no idea what the evening had in store for them! weekend 2

First a little shoe shopping, then dinner out…….weekend 3weekend 4

A big shout out to our awesome waitress, Jordan. {above}
AND to the darling cowboy in suspenders that let me take his photo!weekend 5

After dinner, we broke the big news to them!IMG_8626

WE ARE ON OUR WAY TO THE CELTIC WOMAN CONCERT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Then, this happened:

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Yeah, it pretty much made my year.

  The concert was amazing.  Very interesting, lots of outfit changes, unusual instruments and amazing harmony.

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One thing I wasn’t expecting was the amazing Drums and Irish Dancers, that was my favorite part!
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If you have never heard Celtic Woman, and wish to be enlightened, check out this video of Amazing Grace with Bagpipes…..when they sang it, we all had chills and tears for our Papa.

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  I bet you are wondering what the guys did?  WELL, they had a very special date too!!! Papa would be so proud.  First time fishing, and look at that load!

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~T

Weekend Fun: Mother’s Day Edition

  I hope you all had a WONDERFUL weekend and Mother’s Day!  I spent my first Mothers Day ever, at home with my family.  Dale usually works at his mom’s restaurant on Mother’s Day, helping her with her Mother’s Day Buffet, as his gift to her.  I head home after church with our kids and the cousins, and have them nap and or play until about 2. Then, we go up to eat the leftovers with the family. It is a great tradition, and something we have just always done.  But this year, Dale asked off.  He decided this Mother’s Day, he wanted to be home together.  It was amazing and I felt very pampered and special!

   So, the day started with sleeping in.  I didn’t even know I knew HOW to sleep in anymore!  I photographed a wedding reception Saturday night and got home late, so it was almost 9:00 before I woke up. NINE!  Do you know how late that is around here?  Church started at 9:15, so there was noooo way we were going to make it.  

  They brought me breakfast in bed, as they have in years past. I am making it way easier on them, because this is my breakfast now: a nutrition drink! Mmmm.   mom 1

 Then I opened presents; a card from Destiny, a key chain from Ty {not pictured} and a sun catcher from Avery.  Oh, and Tulips from Dale! They are in a giant Ball Jar and just gorgeous! {use your imagination, it’s too dark to go take a picture now}

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  We just hung out and had a leisurely morning together.  Dale spent an hour and a half in the kitchen making lunch.  LOOK at it, oh my goodness, he did amazing….

Steak, Rosemary New Potatoes, with sautéed Asparagus & Morel Mushrooms.  For dessert he and the boys made a PIE!  Mmmmmmmm!mom 3

{Psst, I will be blogging the pie this summer! It is delicious!}

  Nap time was spent editing photos and making Destiny some ribbon flip-flops, and then we headed to the Zoo.  So fun!

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New Dino Dig exhibit, super cool!mom 7

Oh NO, a T-Rex is eating my children!

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  Do you see the spider web in the next collage?  I have a picture on this exact Spider Web {middle left} with my cousins when I was a kid!  I told the kids to “Be a spider,” and they did the SAME hand actions I was doing in my old picture too. Crazy cool!

Too bad I can’t find it, or I’d share it with you.  🙂mom 8

Destiny and Pax were NOT feelin’ the tarantula exhibit.mom 9

My little Prairie Dogs….mom 10mom 11mom 13

Check out this amazing tree! The blooms grow right out of the trunk and branches.  Our Creator is SO creative!!!!!

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  After the zoo, we headed to THE fountain.  I say THE, because this is where Dale and I came after our first “group date” to the movies as friends.  We sat on a bench in front of this very fountain and he put his arm around me.  I leaned forward, out of his reach, and said, “Do you put your arm around ALL your friends?”  Haha, sassy girl! 

Needless to say, I feel in love that summer, and the rest is HIStory.

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  Papa John’s had a BOGO pizza deal, so we grabbed a couple Larges and headed to the park for a picnic.  I had already packed waters and carrot sticks because I was hoping this would be our supper plans.mom 18

Check out that Mom on her husband’s Smart Phone in the center picture above.  WHAT is she thinking?  Shouldn’t she watch her childrens EVERY MOVE at the park!?  {haha!}

   Dale and I were cracking up when he took that photo. I really was messaging a family member, but then quickly put it away to run and play with the kids.  See? It’s all about finding a balance.  RIGHT!? 🙂  I even had on the same hat as in the Dear Mom On the iPhone post, too!  Oh the irony.

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Last, but not least, the older kids had FIVE free Ice Cream certificates from Braum’s that expired in June, so who were we to let such a good deal go to waste?  Ice cream treats for everyone!

  The kids were beginning to think this Mom’s Day stuff was pretty good for kids too!

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Being a Mom is messy, its hard, and sometimes I want to pull my hair out.  But most days, I walk around my home with a song in my heart, because THIS is what I have dreamed of my whole life……. IMG_2708 The good days are great, the bad days are exhausting, and the rest just fades away in the sticky fingered glory of it all…….

Hope you had a Happy Momma’s Day!

~T

I Think I Am Out of Words…….Or Not.

  I think I am out of words.  Seriously, this never happens to me!!!  I have nothing to say!!!!  After pouring out my heart and soul into last weeks posts, I’m pooped!  So, this week will be a light one, I have loads of delicious recipes I’ve been wanting to share with you, so be watching for those in the days and weeks to come.

  We had a GREAT Mother’s Day weekend, but super-duper busy! The kind of busy where you are home just long enough to trash the house before leaving again.  The kind where you throw your kids to bed, exhausted at 9 pm every night, even though 7:30 pm is closer to what we shoot for.  The kind where even though we said no to a few activities, we had something going every single day. 

  Oops, this is getting long, I thought I was out of words? Hmm, guess not!  🙂

  We started the weekend off, by helping set up and decorate for our Sunday school’s annual “Fancy Dinner”.  Dale and Destiny (and cousin Brooklyn) were kind enough to let me check my camera lighting on them….I was disappointed that the lighting was much harder to deal with the night of the party, and I had many a blurry, orange photo. How frustrating!

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Typical Dale pose

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This “Fancy Dinner” was held Saturday night at the church.  I wanted to wear this black halter pantsuit I wore to one of Dale’s formal work parties from back in the day, but alas, this momma still has some baby fat to loose from Paxton.  And doggone it, if I didn’t have to wear a regular church outfit instead. 

  Funny how something like that can totally make it or break it for how you feel for the night.  This giant flower-feather thing in my hair made me feel a little bit fancier…er, more fancy!?  (English anyone?!?!?!) 

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Yup, this is as good as it gets these days.  Funny how your level of “Made up” changes when you’re in sweats and tinted moisturizer 6 days a week! hee hee 🙂

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Here are some pictures of our awesome Sunday school class:

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The sister Master-Minds behind this whole party…130129

We all had a great time!   Each year has a different theme, this years being Outdoor Café.  Super fun!  The food was delicious and served in courses.

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  I was too busy feeding my face to remember to take pictures of each course! {Sorry girls, I’ll do better capturing your lovely event next time!}

  Afterwards, Dale and I were in charge of “The Not So Newlywed Game”. If you have never played this, you need to.  We were in hysterics!  I’m talking shrieking with laughter until our faces hurt.  There were prizes awarded to two couples: 1) a semi-tame “bedroom themed” gift for the winning couple, who OBVIOUSLY do not need to work on communicating much.  2) A devotion book on communication and coffee mugs/coffee for the losing couple, who need to talk more.  🙂

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  The Not So Newlywed Champions!!!!

{Interesting tid-bit: this couple has been married the shortest amount of time, go figure!}

  Mother’s Day photos are next, but it’s after 11, so I am not going to explain or story-tell. Remember, I am out of words, haha.  🙂

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The Breakfast Circus Show begins…..

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  Family Birthday/Mother’s Day BBQ at my Uncle & Aunt’s house:

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  I hope you had a wonderful celebration with your family this weekend! 

  Oh, and did you hear the latest Mothers Day statistics?  Recent test data confirms that if your mother could not have had children, you could not either. 

Shocking, I know.

Happy Monday!

~T

 

 

What I Would Tell Them…

WHAT I WOULD TELL THEM……

If I knew what to say.

You are a miracle, straight from the hand of our Heavenly Father.

I have to love you this fiercely, so that you can feel it even when you are sitting in the Time Out Chair.045

Or after you leave for school each day.

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Or even while you are asleep.016

After your childhood becomes a memory, I want you to remember my love for you.

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You may forget all this when you grow up.
But it’s okay.

Being a mother means having your heart-broken.

And it means loving and losing and falling apart and coming back together.

And it’s the best there is.

And also, sometimes, the worst.

Sometimes you won’t have anyone to talk to.

I am here for you.

Sometimes you’ll wonder if you’ve forgotten who you are.

You haven’t.

The person you are is there, way down, deep inside you.

Don’t change for others.  Be yourself. 

Shine for Jesus. Be a light to this dark world.

I love you, and I know you inside and out. 

And more importantly?

Your Heavenly Father knows you and calls you by name!

But you must remember this: what we do in this life matters.

And you have to be brave with your life, so that others can be brave with theirs.

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You have to stand strong for what you believe in.

Often, you have to show grace and give mercy,

That’s why I have to love you this way,

So I can try to give what I have to you.

So that you can carry it in your body and pass it on to your kids one day.

I have watched you sleep.

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I have knelt by your bed, breathing a prayer over your fevered, sweaty forehead.

I’ve kissed you a million and one times.

Brushed the hair from your eyes.

Picked you up when you’ve fallen.

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Lost sleep over your future.

And I know something that you don’t, yet:

That time is like dust, scattering in the wind……soon it is gone.

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And in every moment of every day, you are writing the story of your only life.

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And my greatest hope for you, sweet child, is that I can teach you how to write a good one.

One that counts.

One that honors God so that one day He can say to you:

“Well done, good and faithful servant.  Well done!”

Oh, how wonderful that day will be, when you are standing next to me, at Heavens gates.

Why I was chosen to be so blessed with such a difficult task as raising you up to know right from wrong, good from evil, even left from right, is beyond me.  But I do know this…..

It’s is the hardest, scariest, most rewarding task I’ve ever been given.  023

Thank you, Jesus, for the gift of Motherhood.

“For this child I prayed, and the Lord hath granted me that which I have asked of him.”  I Samuel 1:27

“Her children arise and call her blessed.” Proverbs 31:28

Happy Mother’s Day to you!

~T

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“No one else knows the strength of my love for you. 

After all, you’re the only ones who know what my heart sounds

like from the inside.”

If You’ve Ever……

If you’ve ever:

  • gotten a lump in your throat while you heard the heartbeat of your baby
  • unwrapped your newly swaddled baby, completely out of curiosity                  
  • held the feet of an infant to your lips
  • gotten tears on your baby’s head in the middle of the night while feeding him
  • been so tired you handed your spouse a sippy cup instead of his iced tea glass
  • researched the cure for croup on WebMD, at 3 a.m.
  • picked a tiny nose with your pinky finger
  • stumbled over your words, as you explained something so very big to someone so very small
  • wished with all your might for moments forever lost in time
  • paced the halls of your home, praying & mentally willing a fever to break
  • wondered how it was possible for a little person to eat so much
  • wondered how it was possible for a little person to eat so little
  • discussed growth spurts, cradle cap, and the color, consistency and smell of poop, over a nice dinner with your spouse
  • were surprised at how long his little legs were getting as you re-tucked him in, before retiring for the night
  • felt a lovely warming sensation on your belly, and for a moment wondered why. (Oh yes, you are holding your newborn son, who just peed through, again.)
  • laid awake and wondered if you could have done something better
  • heard 18 excuses why she doesn’t want to go to bed
  • baked 32 cupcakes at 10:30 at night (after doing a milk run in your pajamas)
  • filled out a field trip form, only to worry about all the things that could go wrong
  • volunteered for said field trip to put your own mind at ease
  • stayed by the window after allowing her to bike with her neighborhood friends for the first time
  • been mad at someone else’s kid for hurting your kid’s feelings
  • been more excited than ever for snow, just to see their faces
  • made her favorite meal, just because
  • tusseled his hair and pulled him back for a kiss and a hug, even when he tries to squirmed away
  • laid awake at night and willed time to slow down
  • thought you’d never, ever feel love like this – so raw and powerful – leaving you so very vulnerable

Then, you’re doing it right.

~T

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“Heaven Is For Real”: Part 3 of 3

For those of you just joining me here at 4 little Fergusons, this is the conclusion of a 3 part mini-series. Get caught up here………

Part 1: Confessions of a Stubborn Child of God 

Part 2: Hope For the Hopeless

I read a book recently, no strike that, I DEVOURED a book recently. 

  It’s called Heaven is for Real.

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  You know, sometimes I think I live in the stone age.  I do NOT watch the news, I don’t get the paper, I don’t even get on MSN and scan the articles.  If Dale doesn’t tell me, or I don’t read about something big on Facebook, I don’t know about it.

  So, when my dad came to visit, and told us about this book he was reading, I had never heard of it before.  He told us a few short stories from the book and we all got goose bumps from head to toe.  I knew I had to have it! 

   Little did I know at the time that EVERYONE is reading this book!  Or that this book is all over the news, that it just hit #1 on the New York Times Best Seller List for Paper Back Non-fiction.  Heaven is for Real: A Little Boy’s Astounding Story of His Trip to Heaven and Back A young boy emerges from life-saving surgery with remarkable stories of his visit to heaven.

Heaven Is for Real is the true story of the four-year old son of a small town Nebraska pastor who during emergency surgery slips from consciousness and enters heaven. He survives and begins talking about being able to look down and see the doctor operating and his dad praying in the waiting room. The family didn’t know what to believe but soon the evidence was clear.

Colton said he met his miscarried sister, whom no one had told him about, and his great grandfather who died 30 years before Colton was born, then shared impossible-to-know details about each. He describes the horse that only Jesus could ride, about how “reaaally big” God and his chair are, and how the Holy Spirit “shoots down power” from heaven to help us.

Told by the father, but often in Colton’s own words, the disarmingly simple message is heaven is a real place, Jesus really loves children, and be ready, there is a coming last battle.

    This book could not have come at a better time for me. (Go figure?! Don’t you love how the Lord works!)  My parched soul gobbled up these amazing stories with renewed promise and hope for the future. 

  This book took away some of the fears of the unknown I had about Heaven.  Most of them in fact!  I now anticipate Heaven with a smile on my face. 

  It reminds me of  a song we used to sing in Sunday school when I was a kid:

“Heaven is a wonderful place, filled with glory and grace. I wanna see my Savior’s face cause Heaven is a wonderful place. Yah, Heaven is a wonderful place.”

  But the thing from this book that grabbed my soul the most?

The part about Colton’s sister in Heaven.  The one his mom miscarried before him.  One they had never mentioned to him.

  This is what I read:

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“Mommy I have 2 sisters.” Colton said.

Sonja looked up from her paperwork……..

“….I have 2 sisters.  You had a baby die in your tummy, didn’t you?”

  At that moment, time stopped in the Burpo household and Sonja’s eyes grew wide…….

“Who told you I had a baby die in my tummy?” Sonya said, her tone serious.

“She did, mommy. She said she died in your tummy.”

  Then Colton turned and started to walk away. He had said what he had to say and was ready to move on.  But after the bomb he’d just dropped, Sonja was only getting started…..

  I knew what my wife had to be feeling. Losing that baby was the most painful event of her life.  We had explained it to Cassie, she was older.  But we hadn’t told Colton, judging the topic a bit beyond a 4 year old’s capacity to understand.  From the table, I watched emotions rioted across Sonja’s face.

   “It’s okay, Mommy,” he said.  “She’s okay. God adopted her.”

  Sonja slid off the couch and knelt down in front of Colton so that she could look him in the eyes.  “Don’t you mean Jesus adopted her?” she said.

  “No, Mommy, His Dad did!”

  Sonja turned and looked at me.  In that moment, she later told me, she was trying to stay calm, but she was overwhelmed.  Our baby….was –is!- a girl, she thought.

  Sonja focused on Colton, and I could hear the effort it took to steady her voice, “So what did she look like?”

  “She looked a lot like Cassie,” Colton said, “she is just a little bit smaller, and she has dark hair.”

Sonja’s dark hair.

  As I watched, a blend of pain and joy played across my wife’s face.  Cassie and Colton have my blonde hair.  She had even jokingly complained to me before, “I carry these kids for nine months, and they both come out looking like you!”  Now there was a child who looked like her.  A daughter.  I saw the first hint of moisture in my wife’s eyes.

Now Colton went on without prompting.  “In heaven, this little girl ran up to me, and she wouldn’t stop hugging me,” he said, his tone clearly indicated he didn’t enjoy all this hugging from a girl.

  “Maybe she was just happy that someone from her family was there,” Sonya offered.  “Girls hug.  When we’re happy, we hug.”

  Colton didn’t seem convinced.

  Sonja’s eyes lit up and she asked, “What was her name? What was the little girl’s name?”

  Colton seemed to forget about all the yucky girl hugs for a moment.  “She doesn’t have a name.  You guys didn’t name her.”

  How did he know that?

  “You’re right, Colton,”  Sonja said.  “We didn’t even know she was a she.” 

Then Colton said something that still rings in my ears:

“Yeah, she just can’t wait for you and Daddy to get to heaven.”

  We wanted to believe our unborn child had gone to heaven. Even though the Bible is largely silent on this point, we had accepted it on faith.  But now, we had an eyewitness a daughter we had never met was waiting eagerly for us in eternity.

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I couldn’t breath.  I had to read that whole section again.  The words that echoed in my soul:

“Yeah, she just can’t wait for you and Daddy to get to heaven.”

  My heart was pounding and tears were not even yet forming, when I laid the book down on my chest and just stared at the ceiling, trying to fully comprehend what I had just read.  This was big.

Reallyreally BIG.

I would get to meet my babies in Heaven?

They would KNOW who I was?

  I could HUG THEM?!

  They were excited to meet me?

  THEY WERE EXCITED TO MEET ME!

  Wait, I am their Momma, even in Heaven?!

  Suddenly, those 4 little Heavenly Ferguson’s became very real to me.  As real as my 4 little Ferguson’s here on earth.  As real as being able to wrap my arms around them to touch them.  To kneel down, arms flung wide for those babies to come racing into them with shouts of “Mommy! Mommy! You’re here!”  To strokes those precious little faces and marvel at which sibling they look like, to bury my nose in their hair and just LOVE on them.

  I buried my face in my hands and wept.  Shoulders shaking, sobs wracking my body.  I am sobbing again as I write this to you at 4 in the morning.  I have lain in my bed all night dozing, dreaming and pondering what I just read.

  I so desperately needed to hear that.  Desperately. 

  I have never been able to move past that dark little corner of fear, of sadness, in the corner of my soul, way down down deep, that I would never know my lost children.

After 5 years of trying not to stew about it, to feel the loss of it over and over as I pictured them, what I was reading was changing everything I knew.  Blurry images of unreachable children, whom I’d never meet face to face, who would never know I was their mommy or that I loved them dearly, were replaced with something new.  New happy images of a joyous reunion. 

  All this time I had just been trying to be thankful that I they lived in Heaven with their Heavenly Father.  That needed to be enough. Or so I thought.

      I imagined begging Jesus for just a glimpse of them.  Just point them out to me for a moment so I can see them.  Just give me the knowledge that I am their mommy, if only for a second, before taking away all titles again.  You have to remember I was born and raised believing that we wouldn’t know or recognize each other in Heaven.  This was so hard for me to think of, not only for my family here on earth, but the family members that have gone before us too.

  Once the tears stopped, and I gathered my thoughts again, I was filled with JOY

Pure joy. 

  I felt so loved and understood by my Heavenly Father at that moment.  He knew my heart, He knew I needed to read this book, He wanted me to know JUST HOW MUCH HE LOVES ME.  Colton said it over and over in his book, just how much God, the Father, loves us.  He loves us dearly.

  You need to get this book. 

 It is filled with beautiful images of Heaven, a picture of Jesus Colton picked out as “the one”. (interestingly drawn by a little girl who also visited Heaven in a dream)  It is filled with rainbow colors we’ve not yet experienced, animals of every kind, families reunited, a God who draws a little boy up onto His lap, a glimpse down at earth from heaven, a beautiful place “where no one is old and no one wear’s glasses”.

  I am not being asked to review this book.  I am writing this from my heart as I still work to grasp the magnitude of what I just read.  And for the first time?

 I am truly excited for Heaven. 

  Don’t get me wrong, I knew it was the place I wanted to go, but the fear of the unknown, the fear of “losing” my family, or I should say the knowledge that they were my family was a big issue.  An issue that is no longer.

  This week, anticipating Mother’s Day has never been sweeter. 

I am Tonya Ferguson, mommy to 8 little Ferguson’s, and I am BLESSED beyond measure.

“Colton, what do you want people to know from your story?”

“I want them to know heaven is for real.”

~T

There is Hope for the Hopeless: Part 2 of 3

   When I stopped yesterday, I had just walked away from my dream of another child, knowing full well, that I may never hold a flesh-of-my-flesh, new baby in my arms again. 

The rest of my story is a happy one.  2 weeks after my 4th miscarriage, and my time of repentance before God, we conceived.  Yes, you read that right.  Just 14 days after that final miscarriage, a miraculous healing from the Lord occurred in my body to prepare it to hold tightly to the new life that was residing in me. 

In 14 days.

We went on to have a boy.  A perfect, healthy, bouncy baby boy.  His name? 

Tylan Zachary: meaning “God Remembered”. 

Funny, I am pretty sure He never forgot, maybe it should mean “Mommy Remembered”.  Mommy remembered that she is not in control, and God’s ways are better than our own.

Wow.

I didn’t deserve it. 

  Why would the Lord grant me my heart’s desires so quickly after 2 years of blatant disobedience to Him?  What a God of GRACE we serve!!!!

  Each time I became pregnant again, 3 times in 3 years, we fought fear.  We did.  I think that’s just human nature.  And each time we successfully made it through “the Danger Zone”, we breathed a collective sigh of relief, and praised Him for another new life, another surprise miracle on Earth.  

  I LOVE the fact that all 4 of our kids were surprises to us. 

  And how profound that the 4 I tried to make happen, reside in Heaven. 

Remember that song by Eric Clapton…..”Tears in Heaven”? 

“Beyond the door,
There’s peace I’m sure.
And I know there’ll be no more…
Tears in heaven.”

And in the words of my Father in Heaven:

Rev 7:17 For the Lamb in the midst of the throne will be their shepherd, and he will guide them to springs of living water; and God will wipe away every tear from their eyes.”

Rev 21:4b “…and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning nor crying nor pain any more, for the former things have passed away.”

Thank you Lord for seeing fit to fill my arms with my 4 little Ferguson’s here on earth……I am truly grateful.

 I knew there would be no tears in Heaven.  I knew Heaven was perfect, so why was I lying awake at night, stewing that I may never get to meet those sweet babies?  Heaven was going to be great, I was going to be happy, what was there to worry about? 

Even after that day of releasing my dreams of more children here on Earth, and receiving my new-found freedom in Christ, even after we went on to have 3 more successful pregnancy’s, the questions in my mind remained…..

Will my 4 little Heavenly Ferguson’s know my name when I get to Heaven?

  Or will I just have knowledge, that they were once mine? 

  Will they have physical features that I may recognize them by, like Destiny’s impish grin, Tylan’s squishy kissy-lips, Avery’s almond shape baby blues or Paxton’s big round shaped eyes? 

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Dare I hope, that I will be greeted with shouts of “Momma!”? 

  Will I be allowed to sweep them up in my arms, even for a moment, to kiss those precious faces? 

    A woman’s tendency is to quietly ponder things in her heart, and that is just what I continued to do. 

      I had been raised to believe that once we entered Heaven, we’d no longer have the title “Mother” or “Wife”, that instead we would be Children of the King and the Bride of Christ.  And why would we need to be more than that? We’d be in Paradise with our Heavenly Father!

    Still, in the back of my mind, deep in my heart, I struggled to let that desire to meet my children in Heaven go.  I struggled to not feel fearful that even my earthly children may not know who I am in Heaven.  None of that would matter, right?! Right?!

  But I WANTED to know Dale and my kids in Heaven.  I WANTED to meet those little lost babies I never had the privilege of holding in my arms.  I sought the Lord for years about this, and then He brought me this book:

Heaven Is For Real”.

  Everything.  Just.  Changed. 

Conclusion tomorrow….

~T

Confessions of a Stubborn Child of God: Part 1 of 3

  It’s Mother’s Day week.  Once again I am bombarded with emotions I can’t always sort through.  This may be the epitome of bitter-sweet. 

  I wonder how many years the sad will collide with the happy this week:

I am the Mommy to 4 beautiful little miracles here on earth. 

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I am the Mommy of 4 little ones in Heaven.  

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  It was the Thursday before Mother’s Day, when I lost my 4th baby. 

 It was the Thursday before Mother’s Day that everything changed for me. 

It was the Thursday before Mother’s Day, that I became free from a heavy heavy burden I had strapped on my own shoulders. 

 It was the Thursday before Mother’s Day, that my arms were freed from the buckets of cement I had been dragging for 2 long, emotionally exhausting years of ‘trying’.

Trying to make a baby. 

Trying to keep a baby. 

Trying to let go of all my preconceived notions of what I “deserved”, what I had dreamed of my WHOLE life, but never really doing it.

  I spent nearly 2 years operating within my own will.

Never letting go, never giving my dream to a Heavenly Father who was asking so gently to have it.  A Heavenly Father who loves me too much to just take it from me.  

 First miscarriage, I was scared, but had hope it was a fluke, just one of “those things”. Second miscarriage, I was scared and sad.  I spent a lot of time crying and worrying.  At this point, my fears were really taking hold.  Maybe I really would only have 1 child of my flesh here on earth.  By the 3rd miscarriage, I was just plain ANGRY! I felt justified in my anger, I didn’t need to let go, I just needed to move forward, try harder. 

And I did, stubbornly embracing my own way….. 

I could have a baby.  I didn’t need God’s help or permission.  What had that gotten me before except 3 lost babies?

Let the charting, pillow propping, fertile day testing, baby making begin. 

And shortly thereafter, success.  

Would this baby be “THE ONE”? The one that would make it and join us here on earth?

  2 weary, stubborn years after our journey to have another baby began, I lost that baby who was not “the one” after all.  I lost the baby the week of Mother’s Day, this brought the miscarriage count to 4. 

  You mean after making it all those weeks, I miscarry Mother’s Day week?!  Life was so unfair!  How was I supposed to face the world with a rounded, oh-so empty tummy?  How was I going to survive a Mother’s Day service at church just a few days away?

My trying didn’t work.  My plan had failed, and I was…….

Broken.  

So very broken and weary. It’s exhausting to act outside of God’s will.  It’s exhausting to run a show that was not mine to run.  I was so very sorry for my stubborn ways.  Sorry I had written my own agenda and left the Lord in the dust in my plans. But guess what?

He wasn’t left in the dust at all.  He never had been.

  Instead, He was walking next to me every step of the way, He was carrying me, cement buckets and all, at the times I was too weak and burdened to even stand on my own.  He was there with open arms just asking, so gently, so lovingly, if I would give my burdens to Him, my fears, my losses, my dreams.  He was asking me to leap and trust Him and His perfect plan of parenthood for Dale and I.

  That Thursday before Mother’s Day, I stumbled to the feet of Jesus, broken-hearted, stooped over, slumped shoulders, dragging my buckets of cement, and I fell to my face before Him. 

I let everything go. 

I gave it all to Him and He set me free.

  He lifted my chin, dried my tears, and told me I was loved. He straightened my shoulders and promised it would be okay. He wrapped me in His arms and gave me the most peace and hope I had experienced to date.  Maybe even EVER. 

  So undeserving was I, so foolish were my choices, my “entitlement” of the past 2 years.  Yet He loved me enough to get my attention.  He loved me enough to give me His peace when I couldn’t achieve it on my own. 

 IMG_9527copyPICNIKb&w _129 (2)  That Thursday before Mother’s Day, I walked away from my need to have another baby here on earth.

   I walked away from it, knowing that I may never hold a flesh of my flesh new baby in my arms again. 

And you know what?

 I was ok with that.  I was going to be ok with that because my Heavenly Father’s plans are so much better than mine.

  Freedom never felt so good.

More tomorrow…..

~T