Just tuning in? I’m sharing Dale and my love story with you this week, in honor of the Beauty from Ashes Ceremony we are having this weekend to celebrate 2nd chances, as well as our 10th Anniversary, which is TODAY!
An anniversary has never held more meaning for us, as it does this year. Today is extra extra special, because I just keep thinking, had I gone with my initial thoughts back in July, we’d be sharing custody of the kids this weekend instead of celebrating as a family!!!! Woah.
What doesn’t break you, DOES make you stronger! Praise God that He is able to trade beauty for ashes, joy for mourning and peace for despair! {Get caught up here: Surviving Infidelity }
Happy 10th Anniversary to the love of my LIFE!
We’ve been given a second chance at a once in a lifetime kind of love, and I am not letting you go!
I will see you this weekend,
At the end of the aisle,
I will be walking towards you with
Tears and a smile…..
I love you, Dale!
xoxo T
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Part 4 of our Love Story, from the archives:
I was engaged to the man of my dreams! Now the wedding I had in my head since my childhood could take place. Well, a budget version of that dream, but my dream wedding, none-the-less! I had always wanted a huge foo-foo Princess wedding dress and a fancy night-time wedding in a church packed full of the people I loved most……
By the time the invites were done, we had invited 800 people. I had chosen 7 special people to stand up with me as bridesmaids and witness our vows and Dale had done the same, choosing 7 groomsmen.
I wanted to involve all 7 of my nanny kids, whom I loved and adored, as well as those who I babysat for for years.
And Dale, coming from a large family, thought it’d be nice to involve his cousins too. In the end, we had 12 flower girls, who would head down our churches 4 side aisles that day, while handing out flowers to start the service. Next would be 2 bell ringers down the Center aisle, followed by the Jr. attendant walking with the 2 more flower girls. I wanted it to be a day to remember, Dale just wanted me to get down the aisle already!
I’d like to tell you May 24th, 2002 dawned bright and sunny, but it didn’t. Well, it was bright and sunny on the inside, but outside? Terrible storms and rain.
My best friend called me in a panic that morning, worried how I was handling the weather, but my cheery “HELLLOO!” took care of any concerns she had.
This was my big day, a few thunder claps weren’t going to ruin anything!
I had never been more thankful that God had restored my parents marriage and that I, once again, had a great relationship with my dad. Because I had not moved out during our “rough patch” as I family, I woke up the morning of my wedding, in the bedroom of my youth. I smiled to myself, giddy for the day to begin, and tried to capture in my mind the regular morning noises of my mom, dad and little brother making breakfast downstairs….for this was the last time that would occur. When I left the church that night, I’d be heading to the home I would share with Dale, the one we still live in today! I was a 20-year-old young woman, ready to spread her wings and fly for the first time!
After all the hub bub of hair and make up, Dale and I met pre-service for what is now called a “First Look.” We wanted to get photos over with ahead of time, but still have a private special moment when we first saw each other. I don’t have the professional photos to capture it, but this is a snapshot from a friend. Dale meet me at the end of the aisle with tears and a smile. Before we parted ways, he grabbed me, pulled me close and whispered a prayer in my ear. I loved that when the big moment came for me to enter the church and walk down the aisle on my Daddy’s arm, the butterflies were gone because I had seen my man. He had prayed with me and calmed my spirit. I was ready!
The wedding was at 7 pm, and it was everything I hoped for. The church was dark, the stage accented only by soft lights and twinkling candles.
Our pastor gave a beautiful wedding charge, and when it was time, Dale and I tearfully read our written vows to each other.
Soft piano praise music played in the background the entire time, thanks to the musical talents of Dale’s friend on the Baby Grand, inviting the Spirit of the Lord there in the church with us that night. And He was there, I could feel Him and He was smiling at us. The angels in Heaven rejoiced as they sat back and watched another ”Happily Ever After” of a Love Story written by the Author of Love Himself.
Lest things get too serious on our big day, we tried to end on a fun note, and lighten the mood with the recessional song:
A roarin’, piano-thumping rendition of Little Richard’s “Great Balls of Fire.” It wouldn’t be complete without the part where you zip up and down the piano keys, and Dale’s friend nailed it!
WOO-HOO! He’s finally MINE! 🙂
After an appetizer reception in the church gym-turned Garden, with twinkling lit trees, shrubs, gazebos and winding lit paths, Dale and I took off for our new home as a couple. The day was everything we’d dreamed it would be and so very much more.
To end a perfect day, we sat down on a quilt in the bedroom of our new home, opened the picnic basket my mom had packed for us, and had a carpet picnic; eating all the wedding food and cake we had missed at the reception, as we greeted and hugged our guests for hours. During this picnic, I presented Dale with my box of letters and purity ring. As we ate, we opened them and read them from earliest to most recent.
We laughed at the little-girl scrawl of age 13, starting with “Wuz up?” and ending with an oh-so cool “Ciao”, smiled at the grown-up words of a 17-year-old young lady, had flashbacks of a difficult time during the broken-hearted letter of age 18, full of apologies for giving her heart away to a guy named Dale, and finally, a tearful letter addressed: “My dearest Dale”, full of love and devotion from a 19-year-old woman, engaged to be married to the man of her dreams. It was a beautiful moment, one I will not soon forget.
We were blessed to go on a week-long Honeymoon to Maui the next morning, thanks to the generosity of the amazing family I nannied for. It was Paradise, just like they say!
A lot has changed in 9 years, and we are not without our trials and tribulations, fights and tears. But I can tell you one thing, there is not one time I look back over our Courtship and that particularly difficult time in my life, and not see the Lord’s Fingerprints ALL over it. He guided us when we were lost, He carried us when we were too weary to stand, He lifted us up when we were broken down, and most importantly, He lovingly took us away from each other, to prepare us to one day be together again, this time FOREVER.
When I said “I Do” I meant it, forever and ever, till death do us part.
I leave you with 2 thoughts:
Guys, “If she’s amazing, she won’t be easy. If she’s easy, she won’t be amazing. If she’s worth it, you won’t give up. If you give up, you aren’t worthy.”
And girls remember this, “A girl should be so lost in God, that a guy has to get lost in Him to find her.” You must be content in who you are alone, before you’ll ever be content in who you are with someone else.
Take these quotes to heart, hold out for your very own “The One” and GO get those books by Eric and Leslie Ludy. They are LIFE CHANGING!
Thanks for letting me share our Love Story with you! It’s been a really fun walk down memory lane for Dale & I!
~T
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